Comments on: A Remedy for “The Pleasing Disease”

By: Roni

Roni — Tue, 21 Dec 2010 05:40:40 +0000

Hi
I recently had 2 of my friends upset with me and realized I am a people pleaser! I never so no and put everyone and everything above me. I don’t have an ulterier motive but I can’t say NO and I offer for everything and then regret that I did. I need help:(

By: BSinDebt

BSinDebt — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 17:04:59 +0000

I second Chrissy’s thought …

Learning to say “not this time” is important, not only for our own health/sanity, but it also trains the people in our lives to respect our time and personal space. Even people who care about us can start to take us for granted, whether they realize it or not.

By: What Did You Learn This Week?

What Did You Learn This Week? — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 16:58:45 +0000

[...] and in my career beyond my day job. In addition, this week I tried to stay true to my efforts of curing “the pleasing disease” and trusting my [...]

By: Sweetnlow25

Sweetnlow25 — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 04:04:25 +0000

I am so happy you posted on the inability to say “no”. I am going through some of the repercussions of “pleasing” everyone at once right now, yikes! I think I am more vulnerable to this trap because I am currently unemployed, interning, and looking for the right, full-time job. Ahhhh! Thank you for the questions/considerations to help me sort out all that is self-inflicted.

By: Chrissy @ Eat Your Career

Chrissy @ Eat Your Career — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 11:01:18 +0000

Hello. My name is Chrissy and I’m a people pleaser.

HI CHRISSY!!

Yes, I’m making a confession here. It’s something I’ve always struggled with. I’m a notorious teacher’s pet. I literally got straight A’s for years just to make the teachers like me. I hate saying “no” but, like you, I ended up over-committed for so long, I eventually had to force myself to. In fact, just this weekend I had to say no to something I really wanted to do — mostly to help a friend out– but I had to simply decline because I was already slammed. My friend was so understanding…it just confirmed that people really get it when you have to set limits. They, more often than not, have had to do it too in the past. Most people will understand when you have to say No, as long as you’re honest and polite.

By: Michelle Barbeau

Michelle Barbeau — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 20:13:42 +0000

Nicole, This was the perfect post for me to read this week! I was recently thinking that I really need to start giving my schedule some wiggle room. I recently took on a guitar class on top of everything else I’m doing (that I have to do to pay the bills) and it pushed me over the edge. Although it is a great stress relief while I’m there, it makes the rest of my day more stressful because I have to plan around it. Anyways, I TOTALLY agree with this and think it is women AND men that do this. Nice reminder and I will take your challenge.