Hello Dearies!
I’ve survived the one-week mark of unemployment/self-employment. Although I started out with a completely positive, and even excited attitude, there have been those dips everyone warned me about. These emotional “dips” include sadness, confusion, anti-social tendencies and a bit of fear. Overall, I’ve survived and if I didn’t feel some of these things I’d probably be a total weirdo.
Doing things on your own sure does take a long time! For one, this blog isn’t being updated nearly as much as I thought it would be. And yesterday, it took me way too long to start building out the “Shop” option on the navigation menu. One of the things readers can shop for very soon are the classes I’ll be teaching in-person and online. This page is less than stellar (in fact, I’ll even qualify it as lame-o and “not-ready-for-publication”) but this stuff takes so damn long to finish and connect. Little wins are big wins, right?! Stay tuned because soon you’ll be able to Shop for Products, Services, Classes, Deals and Startup Tools. When the hell these pages finally come to life, I don’t know.
I’m pretty sure some of my family and friends are wondering how the hell I plan on creating any type of income via this blog. Well believe it or not, the options are infinite. I’ll be sharing some of these methods with you on occasion because- trust me- you don’t have to be a rocket scientist to make some money online.
But, let’s be honest- I still have a lot to learn and if I said I didn’t watch several “how to” YouTube videos this week, I’d be totally lying…
The other hard part is time management. My problem definitely isn’t sleeping in, watching TV all day or wanting to hang out with friends now that I’m no longer going to an office. My problem is more of the fact that I feel like I should be working 24/7, even though I know it isn’t realistic or sustainable. I finally went running this morning, cleaned my room and emptied out the bags full of the stuff I brought home from my desk after the lay off. Online distractions are a bit of a threat, but having too many ideas is my biggest enemy.
My Dad’s advice to me this week has been “whatever you do, don’t get too caught up in the details. Otherwise, you’ll never get anything done.” He has a great point. And therefore, my Task Master is my new favorite buddy.
Overall, self-employment is exactly as I have been imaging it for the last 5 years. I’ve joined a Toastmasters Group, went to breakfast with a fellow “dump-e” (aka former co-worker), spent time wandering Barnes & Noble just because I could, met with the Director of Internships at DePaul University, worked out of my favorite coffee shop all day, gave myself summer hours last Friday (naptime at 4pm-woo!), ran errands during the day, and take the el during non-rush hour.
The other thing I’ve done more of lately is close my eyes. A LOT.
You see, I have a little… thing… with shopping. Nothing too major, just a lot of little things here and there that add up real fast. Some people eat when they are having a bad day. Others run. When I’m having a bad day, I want to buy something- even if it’s just eating out instead of cooking, or stopping to splurge on cheap (un-needed) makeup from Walgreens on my way home. Not gonna lie, Jen Lancaster and I have a few things in common. The truth is, I’ve never really had to say no to myself before (or not often anyways). Not having whatever I want is probably something I need to learn at some point or another. This will be a challenge for me. I’ll need to start grabbing for confidence boosters in non-shopping ways…. this may lead to weight gain (duh ice cream is my backup plan) but hey something’s gotta give!
Thanks for being part of this journey with me! I promise I’ll stop blogging about myself all the time very soon. In the meantime, week 2 here I come!
Cheers and Sparkle,
Nicole


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If anyone can relate to where you're at in your career, it's Nicole Crimaldi: Nicole spent 5 years in corporate America, switched career paths, worked at a start-up, survived a layoff and is now self-employed. Nicole believes that career satisfaction is a huge part of overall happiness. Therefore, she started Ms. Career Girl to help other women get off the treadmill and onto a more fulfilling path.
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Hi Nicole:
Thanks for sharing what you did… I notice that you joined a Toastmasters group, which is great. Since my first advertising layoff a few years ago, I joined a Toastmasters group and have been blown away by the progress I’ve made in my public speaking and the amazing people I’ve met from my club. TM is one of the best places to meet smart, successful people. But I’m sure you know that already. Good luck in the weeks beyond week 1!
Hey Tim,
Thanks for your comment! I am SO excited about Toastmasters. It is something I’ve wanted to do since college and never made the time for. I do a lot of speaking already but it’s time to get more polished and take it to the next level. Everyone was so nice today, and I already had to get up in front of the room to do some improv and presenting on my first meeting and it will just get easier and easier I can already tell. The people in my group had the same advice and said the people you meet there are incredible networkers. Very excited!
Nicole
nicole,
there will be peaks and valleys along the way. i got laid off via email with one company after giving them 5 years of blood, sweat and tears. the transformation from a normal 5-day routine to setting my own schedule was not easy at first, but i adjusted. i always look at it from the glass is half full perspective; there are people all around the world wishing they could live here for a better life, perhaps creating their own business. after 22 years in journalism, my best advice is follow your dreams and have no regrets!
Wow- you got laid off via EMAIL!? HUH!? Did you think it was a joke at first?
I really love not having to go to an office eery day. I’ve been waking up like normal every day, but agree that it will take me a little bit to get my whole routine ironed out. I think developing a routine will help my productivity increase.
Do you work for yourself now too?
Nicole
nicole,
i have a FT job, but do freelance news and sports reporting on the side for the Examiner Web site here in San Diego. yes, email layoffs are quite surprising, lol. i’m also putting together my own writing Web site to help people with writing assignments, resumes, proofreading etc.
So glad to hear TM is a great program, I sat in a meeting a few weeks back and am joining next week. My position got elminated and my last day was Friday. I am so excited to start experiencing things that I actually enjoy to do and to have the ability to be creative and not stuck in the box. I now just have the find the thing:) Wish I lived in Chi Town:)
Stefania,
Good luck over the next few weeks. Having the time to pursue what you love is really great and something we may not have the opportunity to do again for a very long time! Do you have any idea of what’ next for you in your career journey?
Nicole
Great post Nicole!
Not having a steady income is hard.
But my biggest challenge for me being self-employed – and you touched upon this – is that I can’t quite relax like I used to. Not having the black and white “work and non-work” mentality and feeling guilty on the weekends and evenings when I’m not working is a hindrance. I definitely socialise less too even though you would think I have more time.
Having said that, it gets better every month and it’s a small price to pay. Working for yourself, once you’ve worked out the kinks, is fantastic.
Laura,
I forgot exactly how we came into contact recently but I’m very thankful you did! I’m looking forward to connecting with you more and learning from what you’ve already done in your businesses! Perhaps you’ll help me write a book in the future too!
Nicole
Nicole,
I’m sorry to hear about your lay off, but I am certain you will do better as your own boss! You’ve always been so confident and encouraging and I know you will succeed. I love reading your stuff and I’m sure others do too. Good luck!
Love you!
Erin
Hi Erin!
So great to hear from you! I hope you are well – thanks for your kind words!
Nicole
Nicole!
I’m so excited for you! I’ve been tracking you here for awhile and I’ve been out of the loop working on my own project, etc. Today I stopped by to find that you’ve been thrown into entrepreneurship (in the same manner I was) and I literally shouted for joy when I read your title. I’m so excited for you. I remember exactly what it was like to be where you are, and all I can say is if you really want to have your own business and build your own lifestyle – keep pressing forward. I don’t know you, but I totally believe in you. And…if you ever need some objective feedback or insights on where you’re headed I’d be happy to share anything I know.
Go Nicole!
Nicole – just discovered your blog, and love it!
Regarding Toastmasters, a question to you, Dave & the rest- how comfortable you guys feel with TM’s structured sessions? It’s a turnoff for me. Besides, the impromptu speeches concern me. I tend to ramble, and I think those speeches would me my rambling worse.
You guys seem more my style, so if you were able to find TM useful, I may be convinced to try them again.Oh, and charge Toastmasters for the promotion
Hi Nicole! Oh the insane world of entrepreneurship – those extreme ups and downs never change. I love your recap, it’s so true. It’s so great you are being so proactive about things! The best part is that you can work whenever you want — go to the beach for a few hours and make up for it at night. I know you feel guilty about not doing things 24/7, but it’s so important to take a break. That’s when all of your creative juices start flowing.
My shopping lifestyle has dramatically changed as well – I can’t even remember the last time I bought something nice for myself.
Good luck! You will be fabulous.
It won’t take long to get on your feet – self employment is so much fun. I love it in so many ways, obviously the Universe made it happen for you – it happened for a reason!
Good luck!
Nicole, I just came across your blog through an image search for ‘young professionals’ and got side tracked in your blog. I have 3 days left at a big corporate company before I embark on my boutique seo/sem business. I am thrilled, excited and scared s***less. It’s great to stumble upon sites like yours and people like you who are taking on their dream, even when the airwaves are all doom and gloom. Thanks for sharing your experiences and good luck!
CONGRATS! You’ll be fine SEO is so lucrative if your’e good at it. Speaking of, let’s talk because my clients can always use a great SEO/SEM person! Email me at nicole@mscareergirl.com