Three Social Taboos Not To Be Ashamed About

Society is filled with all kinds of opinions on how life ought to be lived. Whether it’s a moral code or a social code, there’s a definite line between what’s acceptable and not. You can even hire a professional to tell you what’s right and wrong.

If your life doesn’t fit neatly into the box you’re expected to live in, that’s okay. There are many aspects of life society declares taboo, but are just different ways of living.

Here are three ways of life you should never be ashamed of:

Not marrying your life partner

We’ve come a long way as a society, yet some people still don’t approve of those who never marry their life partner. Some believe that marriage is the only viable way to commit yourself to another person. Others feel that not getting married is just an excuse for someone to keep their options open. However, the truth is never black and white. There are endless reasons people choose not to marry their life partner.

Some people don’t grow up dreaming of their wedding day; they just want a partner they can love and grow old with. If that’s how you feel, you’ve got nothing to be ashamed of.

Not getting married doesn’t diminish your relationship, even if your friends don’t share the same experience. It’s understandable that they’d question your choices, considering marriage is important to them. However, you don’t owe anyone an explanation.

Avoiding conflict with those who make you wrong

You don’t need to ditch your friends if they have a different experience of marriage. However, it’s hard to be made wrong by people you care about. To mitigate the animosity, be compassionately understanding of their experience. Just as you’d want the same from them, don’t invalidate their view of marriage and agree to disagree.

Having non-monogamous relationships

On the surface, society pushes the morality of monogamous relationships, whether you’re married or not. To some, it’s a sin to date two people at once. Meanwhile, research shows that many married people will engage in infidelity at some point in their lives.

When everyone’s on board, there’s no problem

Since monogamy is the standard expectation in society, you have a duty to inform potential partners of your lifestyle prior to getting involved with them. The only true problem with non-monogamous relationships is when someone isn’t aware that their partner is non-monogamous.

For those who are hard-wired to be non-monogamous, the idea of their partner being with someone else doesn’t bother them at all. In fact, if they and their partner are happy, that’s all that matters.

Mixxxer, the new app for swingers, explains this point well. “Non-monogamous people are more focused on happiness – both their own and their partner’s – and don’t see the point of denying either party the chance to seek happiness in other people.”

What works for some people doesn’t work for others, and that’s perfectly okay. When all people involved are aware and consent, there should be no problem.

Being “out of fashion”

When you were in high school, being out of fashion had dire social consequences. Today, you may find that despite their age, some people still haven’t made it past junior high. These people make it seem like a crime to be out of fashion, but what does that even mean?

Fashion is arbitrary and unpredictable; what’s considered to be “in fashion” changes frequently, and entire styles are recycled every two or three decades.

For instance, ruffles and accentuated sleeves were popular in the 17^th century and have recently become part of contemporary fashion. Baggy pants were popular in the 1990s, and although skinny jeans reign supreme today, the baggy trend has been making a comeback for several years.

Despite the trends of any era, there are always people who do their own thing. Don’t be afraid to be one of those people!

Fashion is a way to express yourself

Fashion designers create their designs as an act of self-expression. The clothes you wear can also be an act of self-expression when you’re willing to step beyond expectations.

Designers from all over the world work hard to create unique styles that benefit those who have a flare for originality. Even though many of these styles are eventually mass-produced, they’re unique enough to stand out in a crowd.

The unspoken rule is if you’re going to be original, you’re going to be out of fashion with every trend. There’s no way around it, so be proud when you’re out of fashion. It means you’re being true to yourself.

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