Are you in a mediocre relationship?

I’ve known ladies who have said they are going to break up with their boyfriends, and then they don’t.

I have friends who have broken up with their boyfriends, only to get right back together with them.

There are women who are in relationships that give them zero gratification, but they stay “just cause”.

So I ask- why do women stay in mediocre relationships?

Personally, I’ve been there too. I have definitely had my fair share of mediocre relationships. Those relationships with no spark, no fire, no personal connection. Relationship that provide you with a partner, but one that might not truly see who you are or is able to give you the things you truly need. My excuse was-I just wanted to be in a relationship so badly, it didn’t matter who the guy was. Isn’t that sad?

I wonder if there is something about society and something about the defining yourself as a woman that makes us value being in a relationship more than the quality of the relationship. For example, ┬áit doesn’t matter who the date is for Valentine’s Day, just that you have a date is what is important.

I think this is just one out of an infinite amount of reason for why people stay in a mediocre relationship, but one that I definitely relate to.

So do you have another reason? Have you found yourself in a mediocre relationship before? Were you just hanging out with one guy until the next guy came along? Have you been in a relationship for so long you didn’t realize it was mediocre anymore? Did you not know yourself enough to know what type of relationship you wanted?

I think this is a big issue with ladies these days and I’d love to hear what you have to say!

Let’s talk.

Happy Thursday y’all!

Lauren Schaefer

Lauren Schaefer is a nonprofit event planner, comedy improviser, avid blogger and New York City single lady. She documents her own new journey as a young professional in New York at her blog From the Fifth Floor.