How to Navigate Being Single in Your 30’s

If you’re single in your 30’s, I’ll bet you’ve had an experience like this. That horrible date who couldn’t stop talking about their foot problems and the surgery they had at The Bunion Cure. You didn’t have a chance to get one word in. You feel like since you’re in your 30’s you’ll never find a suitable partner. Pour a glass of wine, take a deep breath, and read up on how to navigate being single in your 30’s!

Enjoy Your Freedom

Being single, at any time, allows you to be completely free to do as you please. There is no difference when it comes to being single in your 30’s. Instead of craving to attach yourself to someone, find the joy that comes with your independence. In turn, this will prevent you from becoming codependent which often leads to unhealthy relationships. Embrace this special time to be you!

Expand Your Social Circle

Just because you’re single, doesn’t mean you’re alone. Get active, make new friends, and join local community events. Expanding your social circle allows you to get to build relationships that aren’t romantic. Also, who knows? You might just meet that special someone at the new climbing group you joined.

Practice Personal Growth

When you’re single you have plenty of time and energy to focus on growing yourself. In relationships, it’s not uncommon to see people put their personal growth aside as they tend to start focusing on growing the relationship. Use this time to grow into the best version of yourself. You can meditate, practice yoga, journal – whatever it is you want! Find what works for you and embrace the opportunity and space you have to grow as an individual.

Focus on What You Love

You have the time to focus on what you love when you’re single. Ideally, this would also be true if you are in a relationship – but that’s not always the case. Fortunately for you, you don’t have to concern yourself with that. Use your freedom to dive right into the things that make your heart and spirit happy.

Establish What You Want in a Relationship

If you’re single at 30, the chances are you’ve been in a relationship that hasn’t worked out. That’s why this is the perfect opportunity for you to really home in on what it is you seek in a partner. Create a boundary list, figure out what characteristics you want your partner to have. By establishing what you want in a relationship, you’ll be much better prepared to not entertain relationships that aren’t right for you.  

Stop Comparing Yourself

It’s important that you stop comparing yourself to others. You might see “happy” couples and wish you had that. This could lead to you thinking something’s wrong with you or that nobody in this world will end up with you. You’ve got to get out of your head on this one! There’s no timetable when it comes to our life and relationships. You’re taking your own path. Also, you might be surprised that 23% of the U.S. population aged 30-49 are single. You’re certainly not alone.