An Important Message: Disabilities Needn’t Be Disabling

We often think that in order to be happy, we have to have to acquire something. Perhaps that something is fame, money, power, health, even sex. But when you take a look at the people who have those things, they’re often not happy. Just look at what happened to Robin Williams.

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Being happy is something that comes from within. It’s about the process, not the end result. Happy people are happy whether they draw the short straw in life or not.

If you’ve got a disability, happiness can often feel out of reach. How are you supposed to find a partner or get a job when you’re stuck in a transport chair?

Here we’re going to take a look at why disabilities needn’t be disabling. We’re going to investigate some of the ways that people with disabilities can have a productive, fulfilling and happy lives. Remember, it’s about living in the moment.


Be As Independent As You Can Be

In the past, having a severe disability meant that you were reliant on other people to help you 24/7. But today, there are far more tools and gadgets that can help disabled people keep their independence. This is important for two reasons. The first is that people who are disabled can often end up feeling guilty about always needing somebody to care for them. We all know that looking after someone full time is tough. And often the person being cared for can feel bad as a result. The second is that independence gives you a sense freedom in the world. It’s hard to live day to day and not be in control of important parts of your life. Try doing things like cooking a recipe from scratch without help or getting your driver’s license.


Accept Your Individuality

There’s a certain human need to want to “fit in” with the rest of the crowd. But when you’re disabled, this can be difficult. The people who make their disabilities work are those who accept that they are different. In fact, they wind up falling in love with the things that make them unique. It’s what makes the world interesting and varied and a worthwhile place to live. Being different identifies you as an outsider, and somebody other people can look up to as an example.


Remember Your Sexuality

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Human sexuality is almost universal, and an important part of our identity. It’s central to making sure that we’re happy and connected to the world in which we live. You might think that being disabled and finding a partner is tough – and it is. But advertising yourself has never been easier, thanks to the internet and other social platforms.

As somebody with a disability, you might want to try more indirect methods of meeting people and getting to know them better than dating sites. Look for events on sites like Meetup and see what is happening in your local area. Remember to dress up, powder, shave, and so whatever you can to make yourself feel sexy in your body.


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