Will Living Together Kill Your Relationship?
As I’ve mentioned previously, I live with boys. Somehow, it’s never been an issue of concern with parents, family, or other parties. But when the idea of living with a significant other was posed to my friend the other week, it became a hot button issue!
I’ve always believed I would live with my significant other prior to marriage. Why wouldn’t I? If you loved the person and wanted to see how committed you were, if you were truly compatible, wouldn’t you want to live together? Not to mention it would be financially responsible to live with someone else.
In my opinion, I’ve seen too many marriages fail that could have been remedied or all together avoided if they had lived together and seen all the flaws prior to taking the jump.
I really had no idea others would really disagree with me (except those for religious reasons) until it came up in discussion the other night with a friend. This male friend said he completely disagreed. He believes that if two people are committed enough to move in together, they should get married. He also believes it’s pessimistic- setting yourself up for failure in a way.
The next day, as a great coincidence, my favorite morning show Today on NBC had their “Ask the Experts” segment discussing living together prior to marriage. I decided to play the segment for my friend. I hadn’t watched it yet but I knew it might bring some other elements to our discussion and someone on the panel would of course agree with me. I was so terribly wrong.
The first time in “Ask the Experts” history, (Or to my knowledge- but I’m an avid Today watcher), they all agreed. THEY. ALL. AGREED. And not to my liking either! All three experts (including my beloved Hoda Kotb) agreed that living together takes the “special” out of marriage and it has become too common these days.
My friend sat back and chuckled in his glory as I fumed over my defeat.
But I can’t be the only one who thinks this way right? As much as I love Hoda and the experts, they aren’t the end all be all right?
What do you all think? Am I alone in my potentially pessimistic views? Or are there others out there that see the rational reasoning in moving in to test true love? Is the boy crazy (per usual) or does he have a point? Let’s talk.
Happy Thursday Y’all!